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Hey Blogland,

I want to ask for your help today! I know a girl. She is 16. We shall call her Cuppiecake. Her Mom is a very very good friend of mine and things are going a little south for them. Let’s go back a step so I can explain.

This Mom is a single Mom of two. Her oldest is 26yrs old and is in recovery from some pretty bad habits. As a result of trying to help her son, and a drastic change in her employment situation she has found herself in a bit of a spot. As seems to be the recurring theme for most single moms, she doesn’t get any kind of help from their Dad and she struggles along with the kids. She has her own fledgling estate agency and she is damn good at what she does but, as some of us will know, the property market isn’t exactly thriving right now and when those sales happen commissions can be slow to arrive!

Now Cuppiecake is an amazing child. She is dyslexic. She never did particularly well at school and they have tried everything from private to mainstream to home schooling. Eventually, after many tears and much frustration, she decided that schooling just wasn’t working for her and got herself into Beauty School.

Despite everything, and against all odds, she is thriving. She has risen above all expectations and is passing her courses with FLYING colours. This all costs a fortune though and her Mom is paying her rent, and providing her with money for food and transport and everything she needs, to the best of her ability.

They have now been told that unless they come up with R15k to pay a portion of her tuition (which totals R42 000), Cuppiecake will have to leave the college. She is HEARTBROKEN!! She has even started to do beauty treatments for family and friends to raise some money to buy herself a warm jacket for winter and to try and at least help with some money to pay the college.

So, I had a brainwave and here’s what I want you to do. If I can get 150 people to donate R100 each, Cuppiecake can hang on to her spot in college. Everyone who donates something no matter how big or how small, will be entered into a prize draw and could stand a chance of winning one of these awesome prizes, sponsored by some very caring business owners we happen to know:

1st Prize:
2 Night stay for 8 people (4 en-suite bedrooms) at the most STUNNING little spot in Tulbagh, including breakfast and a dinner voucher to the value of R600, with a complimentary bottle of estate wine on arrival.

2nd Prize:
Dinner and accomodation (including breakfast) at a very nice little guesthouse in Riebeek Kasteel for 2 people for a night.

3rd Prize:
A case of absolutely heavenly estate wine from an exclusive wine farm in Tulbagh.

The draw will take place on the 10th May 2010, so please dig deep on this one. I know times are tough for all of us, but please please please, take some time out to think about how you can help make the dreams of this amazing child come true.

Donations can be made to:

LC Hugo
ABSA
Acc # 9200236181
Branch Code 632005

Please use your cellphone number as a reference so we can contact you if your name is drawn, and please email your deposit slips to champion.cuppiecake@gmail.com.

Please guys I am appealing to everyone. Lets make this wonderful girl happy!

Hugs,

CM
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WOW, so this feels weird. Its been 6 months since the last post, and here I am, back at my WP admin screen, typing a blog post. Oh, I am not sure I remember how.

Uh-oh.

So I guess, in the absence of anything really earth-shattering to say I should ask you all to go back and read the last 2 years worth of blog posts because very little has changed.

I am still single, I still have 2 gorgeous gorgeous children, I am still eternally grateful for my friends, although the members of this group have changed slightly, and I still work too frikkin’ hard. I am still fighting my exes for maintenance on a monthly basis. BFG is getting better at the payment thing, NH is an arsehole. Still.

I am a little nearer to 30 then I was when I started this site, and nowhere nearer to living my dreams. But I am still positive. I have my good days and my bad days. I am no longer on medication to help me cope with my bipolar because I realised that it kills the very spirit of me and leaves me numb, and tired. My plans of spending my 30th in Italy aren’t going to happen this year, so instead, I am stomping grapes Valley-style and, until a few months ago, the descendants of Roman God’s came to me to do the necessary. That’s all over now too though and the drought has returned.

DC, as it turns out, has discovered her talent and is a few steps closer to living her dream of being a rockstar, and making me laugh and cry simultaneously with all the practice on chosen instrument! HF is still the happiest little person around. She is in love with the Beatles, and horses and worms.

So not much else is news, other than I am working in the city centre again so for those of you who I haven’t seen in a while wanna pop in and say hi, just call!

CM

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“I’ve got it! I got it in the shower!! I know what it is!!”

“What?????”

“I know why you like him!!!”

“Why????”

“Because you wanna fix him!!!”

“oh… OMG! Probably!”

“You’re so much like me. I also want to fix them. You wanna fix AB because he’s a challenge and you like to fix them. W&F is not broken, but AB is and YOU.WANT.TO.FIX.HIM!!!”

“OK. Fuck off!”

See, what happened was, I asked the universe to help me. To find happiness, and love, and peace, and contentment. And guess what. The universe taught me a very very very good lesson. She taught me that to get to where I wanted to be, I had to understand a few things first.

1. The Universe always listens. Be careful what you ask for.
2. The Universe always answers. Even when you think she didn’t, she did. Look again.
3. Once you understand that, you figure out how to ask the questions.
4. Then you have to learn to let it go and live in the moment.
5. Then you begin to truly be.
6. Then she throws just a little more shit at you, just to be sure you understood her good and proper.
7. And then suddenly you are happy and at peace and purring like a Mommy-cat with contentment!
8. And then she answers your request for love.
9. And then the shit hits the not-so proverbial fan.
10. THE BEGINNING!

And you know what? That’s how it goes. I am learning Points 8 through 10 in the lesson.

Except this time she made the learning tough. Yes, because clearly THIS, THIS and THIS or even THIS weren’t hard enough, she has now brought me 2 wonderful men!! Both worthy of an awesome amount of admiration. One an educated, incredibly BRILLIANT human being. Not just in intelligence, but also in being able to put me at ease! He brings with him an awesome sense of stability and peace and makes me feel so relaxed, like the world is going to be ok as long as I can hide behind him. He feels like the perfect fit. We shall call him W&F.

And then there’s AB. Now, this one is from the old school way. More traditional, more Afrikaaner (although they are both from Afrikaans speaking families)… But he makes me laugh that the tears pour down my face and my stomach muscles hurt the next day. He has eyes that look like through you and while he is a SUPER-DUPER nice guy, there’s a bad boy in there that makes me want to crack. Not a bad boy in the way I am used to them being packaged, but he has been in his fair share of trouble. Now I know he has appeared here before and then I decided that maybe he wasn’t right for me. But he stuck around and so he has become a very real option again.

So these two appear in my life and what the hell am I supposed to do?? She answered me but in making the answer difficult, she is teaching me more. This time she is forcing me to take a long-term view of my life. I have to decide which path to walk… and I hate decisions like this. Fuck it. *sigh*

I know which one makes my insides wobble and I know which one makes me warm and fuzzy… and I need to decide if I want to have wobbly insides or be warm and fuzzy for the next chapter of my life.

“Can we try to make it a long chapter, please Universe?”

I am going to sign off now, and dream of my future being warm and fuzzy and see if I could make it long-term!

CM
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