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Hey All,

“What’s this?” you say… 2 posts in 2 days! This girl got her groove back! No, actually I just read an awesome blog post by my dear friend Cath. Every man dating a single Mamma needs to read this blog. Every man.. No exceptions.

Well done, this one is going to ROCK THE WORLD CHICK!!!

I am printing it out and keeping hold of a few copies of it to give to all those potentials the angels are sending my way!!!

Here’s a snippet, but take a wonder over to this most awesome of posts ever here.

So, you meet her – Funny, clever, busy, cynical and soft. She’s great. You date. Except there’s one thing about her that makes your ballsack twinge in fright.

It’s the Kid.

Now let’s be upfront, and serious, just for a second. When you’re dating a single mom, you’re really dating two people. Okay, so not exactly the ménage ‘n trois you were hoping for, but hey, beggars can’t be choosers.

Know this one thing – she doesn’t consider it serious until she introduces you to the Kid. Know one other thing – introducing you to the Kid is not a test. You cannot pass or fail it. It just is. Got that? Good.

The stuff you should know:

Knowledge of the Kid:

Any mother, anywhere, is going to talk about her kid. Your mom did, didn’t she? So, if the topic of the Kid only comes up way after you meet, you may find she’s ashamed of the idea of being a single parent.

My answer? Run. Now. Any person not okay with being themselves is not worth your time anyway.

Your date/girlfriend is going to talk about the Kid. Get used to that fact. Just as she’s also going to talk about her job, her friends, her life and her family. Just like you are about your job, your friends, your family, your car. Except her Kid isn’t an accessory and doesn’t come with fuel injection. No, wait, the Kid does have fuel injection capabilities, spawned from a myriad of bribery sweets and birthday cake, but does not require weekly buffing and an immobilizer. On that note, if anyone knows how to install an immobilizer on a Kid, let me know.

Priorities:

You see, dude, you’re going to have to accept that you score at a number two on the priority list in Single Mom’s life. Once it’s serious, you’ll reach that point. You don’t comprehend? Look, I’ll show you:

Single Mom’s priorities before she dates you:

1. Kid.
2. Self.
3. Job.
4. Family.
5. Friends.
6. Everything and everyone else

Single Mom’s priorities once you two reach serious stage:

1. Kid.
2. You.
3. Self.
4. Job.
5. Family.
6. Friends.
7. Everything and everyone else.

Notice that subtle change? Thought you might.

So, in the grander scheme of things, scoring number two ain’t so freaking bad, after all, is it? What are your priorities, then, mmm?

Read more here.

Lots of love,
CM
xxx

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